Social Media “Rockstars” vs. “Narcissists”

by Brett Borders on November 16, 2008

Social media has given us some amazing new channels for self expression. Common people are getting empowered and gaining an international audience by creating and sharing good stuff.

But just like digital cocaine, social media can also inflate people’s ego in a nasty way.

Rockstar? Or vapid starlet in love with your own digital reflection? image: jhuffman

It tempts us with a hypnotic, digital “mirror” that we can gaze into anytime - or all day long if we choose to. And it offers us hundreds of new ways to spread the latest gossip… which causes some people to get completely absorbed in the “me” part of social media.

The whole scene reminds me a lot of the dot com bubble of 1999… when a giddy, reckless sense of excitement over the new technology and culture heavily blurred the line between fantasy and reality.

One current phenomena that I find odd: just making a lot of chatter and noise is enough for some people to become “famous.”

What is a Social Media “Rockstar”?

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Digg.com founder Kevin Rose. image: Garrette

Here’s my own personal definition:

A social media rockstar is a charismatic & highly-skilled person who gains a large audience because of their successful online projects and/or selfless community contributions.

A musical rockstar creates songs that inspires thousands of fans to fill stadiums, scream along and hold lighters in the air. A social media rockstar creates content and builds communities that inspire tens of thousands of people to link and leave blog comments.

While some rockstars can develop big egos, they’ve got recognized accomplishments to back them up:

  • Popular bloggers who create valuable information resources.
  • Community-minded organizers and top contributors on social sites.
  • Founders, designers and architects of successful social technologies.
  • Creators of “smash hit” viral content that spreads around the world like wildfire.
  • Researchers and teachers who selflessly help lots of other people “get it.”

To me, people like Kevin Rose (co-founder of the top social news site ), Maki (#3 Digger and Technorati Top 20 blogger on social media culture), creatives like the Cracked.com publishers or Matt Inman (who consistently produce viral hit, after hit, after hit), or bloggers like Chris Brogan or Marshall Kirkpatrick (who spend a substantial amount of their time online creating guides and resources designed to help people) are the genuine social media rockstars.

What is a “Social Media Narcissist”?

There are plenty of people online who have managed to create a sizable audience without much in the way of skills or selfless community contributions. These social media narcissists participate heavily in the online conversation, but if you look closely you will see that most of it is just chatter about themselves, their opinions and their friends.

Some common traits of social media narcissists:

  • Self-absorbed. They blog and tweet almost exclusively about themselves, their thoughts, their pictures.
  • Rarely mention others except for personal buddies or admirers.
  • Spend most of the day on Twitter.
  • Perform little to no “real” work - don’t code, design, publish or promote much (except for themselves).
  • Some live outside of the economic “real world”: independently wealthy, supported by their parents or spouse, live on venture capital $ or have a cushy job.
  • Have a high noise-to-signal ratio.
  • Complain a lot, yet create little of substance. Some use troll tactics to get attention.
  • Attend lots of technology conferences just to party and hang out.
  • Start their own conferences in order to feature themselves and friends as speakers.

Some examples of social media narcissists would be most mommybloggers, “Senior” social media strategists at big companies or PR firms (the ‘theoretical’ ones who talk big but have no social media presence or real life experience), and full-time Twitter “celebutantes” who hang out in cafes all day… chatting up several thousand mutual friends and spambots.

Some self-absorbed people may be very influential or get a large following but I still don’t consider them to be “rockstars.” I think of ‘em more like social media “talk show hosts” or “rappers.”

What Do You Think?

Am I a social media rockstar? Not even close. Am I a narcissistic new media douchebag? Man… I really hope not. But I admit that I am driven to learn how to use social media more effectively and to reach a wider audience.

Not for the warm fuzzies I’ll get from peeking in the digital mirror, but because I love connecting, sharing and helping people. I honestly believe that social media has potential to spark a powerful, positive force in human evolution if we filter the noise and learn how to use it uber-consciously. (And also because I’m totally hooked on it… so why not go all the way ;) ?)

So, what’s your real social media agenda? Who do you think is a real social media “rockstar”? And what’s your take on the noise and the narcissism that comes served alongside the good stuff?

Please leave your comments below!

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Interview with Matthew Inman (Oatmeal)

by Brett Borders on November 9, 2008

Matthew Inman is a 26-year-old independent marketer and designer based in Seattle. He worked for 4 years as the CTO and lead developer at SEOmoz - where he designed the complex web applications involved in their SEO tool suite.

Some of his notable social media accomplishments include writing classic viral linkbait articles, and drawing hit cartoons that rake in thousands and thousands of diggs. He also built and promoted his own free online dating site, Mingle2, single-handedly taking on huge corporate sites backed by multi-million dollar budgets (like Match.com and eHarmony.com). Matt took a break from his busy freelance project schedule to share his thoughts with Social Media Rockstar readers.

Many people think you are unusually multi-talented: skilled at programming, writing, marketing, illustration and design. What is your educational background?

“I’m 100% self-taught. I started doing web design and development in when I was 13 years old (around 1995), so by the time I graduated high school I already had quite a bit of experience: I could design web pages, knew my way around a UNIX shell, and could code in a couple different languages. This enabled me to basically skip college and go straight to work at the height of the dot-com boom.”

Matt having some (juvenile) fun in downtown Tokyo

How did you develop your skills?

“Turning my skills into hobbies really made a huge difference in my life. I enjoy design and illustration so much that it’s sometimes difficult for me to classify it as work. The same goes for programming, linkbait, or whatever else. (This applies to most things, however there are definitely some tasks out there that I would be quite happy never, ever doing again). Basically enjoying what I do makes it a lot easier for me to get better at it, because I’m eager to learn and kind of obsessive. Also, I’m constantly reading and tinkering.”

What are your thoughts on the theory of the right brain and left brain?

“I enjoy what I’m doing more if I work on right brain and left brain tasks interchangeably. It mixes things up and keeps work interesting. If I devoted an entire day to just coding I’d probably get burned out. Instead I try to alternate between the creative stuff and the detailed stuff.”

Tell us about how the creative process works for you?


“I have a giant 17″x14″ illustration pad that I scribble everything down in with a mechanical pencil. This includes design concepts, linkbait ideas, illustrations, web page mockups, and an endless horde of bizarre illustrations and notes. I tend to jot down everything I think of with no real regard for structure, and then later on I filter it down to only the good stuff. For me, the best test of whether linkbait is effective is if it genuinely entertains or intrigues me. If I’m not laughing at my own joke I bag it. Humor and weirdness has always worked best for me, so I tend to stick to those channels.

For inspiration I read the usual sources: Digg, Reddit, Mixx, and so forth. I also read a lot of online comic strips, “best of” Craigslist posts, and I spend a lot of time using StumbleUpon.

Also, If you want inspiration for linkbait that is beyond just editorial bait (blog posts & articles), the facebook app directory is actually a fantastic resource. Look at what’s popular in there and adapt some of those ideas to the blogosphere. ”

At what point did you first completely “get” the concept of online viral marketing?

“The first quiz I ever created for Mingle2 was called the Geek Quiz. It was 20 questions or so and it issued a percentage score of how geek you were. When I launched it traffic instantly shot up with the majority of the referrals coming from stumbleupon. Prior to this, all the linkbait I published would typically follow the same pattern: I’d publish an article, see massive amounts of traffic from digg or wherever, and then it’d die off after a few days. The Geek Quiz was different because the “I am x% geek!” HTML badges encouraged bloggers to keep reposting the quiz. Because of this, traffic didn’t die down after the social media sites stopped sending referrers - instead it flourished. It was almost like the blogosphere itself had become a social media site and my linkbait had “gone hot.”

I don’t know if this was the first time I ever “got” viral marketing, but it definitely was a turning point for me. ”

What social media projects or linkbaits have impressed you the most?

“The writing style and subject matter of many of the authors at Cracked.com have hit the linkbait nail on the head. The material is easily digestible, funny, and their site is very sticky (every time I read a Cracked article I end up going on to read several more).

I also think Free Rice is absolutely brilliant. It’s not exactly linkbait, but it’s great viral marketing. I’m all about linkbait that either entertains the user or rewards them. If your linkbait isn’t funny or engaging, instead give them a short task to do, such as a quiz or a game, and then provide a way for them to share their achievement with others.

Also, I love how this guy tells his story. He mixes creative writing with illustrations and this format could easily be adapted to a variety of different subjects.”

You single-handedly built an ENORMOUS number of links with viral widgets, but then then Google banned your sites… So do you think viral widgetbait is out? What types of content do you think holds the most long-term promise for viral marketing in the future?

“Google’s policy on widgetbait is a bit hazy right now, but I don’t think it’s completely out - it just has to be on-topic and the anchor text in the badge has to be relevant to the quiz. You can’t put ‘How many hungry kittens could your dead body feed?’ on a website that sells kitty litter. Instead, I suppose you’d have to make a quiz called ‘If ground down and processed, how much kitty litter could your body produce?’ or some other such nonsense. Keep it relevant and make sure the user knows what they are linking to.

I’m always an advocate of providing utility or reward to a user in the form of HTML. This includes widgets, badges, blog templates, and any other functionality which can be massively distributed in the form of HTML code. In the future we’re going to see more and more of this from myself and other marketers.”

What are you working on these days?


All the new stuff I’ve been working on has to be kept under wraps for now, but here’s a few linkbait pieces I recently made for Mingle2:

What do you like to do for fun?

“Running, snowboarding, movies, swimming, drawing, vector illustration, and traveling.”

(Note: according to his most recent Twitter updates, Matt has also been surfing and training for a marathon!)

What is the greatest buzz or most amazing experience you’ve ever had in front of a computer?

“Probably the first time I played Quake against a friend of mine who lived down the street. We did it over dial-up and I thought it was the most fun I’d ever had in my entire life. Unfortunately this caused me to get really addicted to online games and I spent way too many of my teenage years playing them when I could have been learning things about computers that are actually useful :)

Tell us about your computer system? What software tools do you consider to be essential to your social media game?

“For my workstation I have a MacBook Pro. I love OS X mostly because it has a unix back-end (without all the upkeep & hassle of having a Linux box), so when I need to I can drop down to the command line and work there instead. It also lets me run a local web and database server locally so I can develop on my laptop and then deploy to a live server later. For my servers I typically use FreeBSD, which is a unix variant.

The Social Media toolbar from 97th floor is invaluable for me, as well as the SEOmoz Rank Checker. I also use the SearchStatus SEO plugin for Firefox.”

You’ve accomplished quite a lot by your mid-20’s.. but what about your future goals? At what point in your career will you be able to stop and say, “Wow, I’ve REALLY made it!” ?

“I was gonna give you a wishy washy answer about personal success, but I decided against it. Instead, I’m gonna be honest: I want a 7 figure income before I’m 30 :)

Seriously though, my ideal future would be to create a successful online property that doesn’t rely on search rankings to survive. I’ve seen how delicate that basket can be.”

Connect with Matt on Twitter or LinkedIn or check out his marketing & design portfolio.

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Welcome to Social Media Rockstar!

by Brett Borders on November 9, 2008

I think some of the most fascinating things about about social media are the people and the personalities behind it:

  • The writers and producers who create the most magnetic & explosive content…
  • The news mavens and information freaks who keep the goods from getting lost in the shuffle…
  • The visionaries and professors who take the first steps and teach others how its done…
  • and the engineers and architects who create the temples and digital plumbing of the future…

I’ve found there are tons of cool stories, tutorials and opinions out there, but not enough material featuring a human, personal view of the people who form the backbone of modern social media culture.

That’s why I decided to launch Social Media Rockstar

Social Media Rockstar will feature regular interviews with some of the top minds in social media, along with occasional opinions and commentary about exciting changes and shifts social web!

Your feedback, suggestions and comments are most welcome… please feel drop a line below!

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